Financial Domination – Myth or Reality?

Give until it hurts! After all, suffering *is* exquisite!

Give until it hurts! After all, suffering *is* exquisite!

I’ve been asked more than once if financial domination is a true fetish, or if it is something that was made up on the Internet. I can assure you that it is a *very* real fetish, and I’ve been the benefactress of it on numerous occasions.

I can see you mulling that one over in your mind.  After all, shouldn’t a benefactress be someone who gives?  How is it possible that I’ve given if I’ve been the recipient of funds or gifts from financial domination fetishists?

Financial Domination is Another Form of Power Exchange

A power exchange exists when one relinquishes an aspect of their personal power to another.  On the surface, it might appear that it results in one person giving, and another receiving.  However, if we look past the surface, we see that power exchange is an equal, yet opposite action.  Yes, in fetish terms, it subjugates one person to another.  But what of the energy that is required to *receive* that submission?  I believe that is giving as well, and thus, I believe that benefactress is an applicable term when discussing financial domination.  I make it possible for them to submit in the way that they need to.

Money Equals Power

If you are not a financial domination fetishist, you might wonder why on earth anyone would not only want, but in some instances beg to give up their hard earned money and seemingly get nothing in return.

There are so many different types of submissives.  Some wish to submit with their bodies, and they proudly bear the marks of a harsh caning.  Others wish to serve, and are not only content, but gratified to take care of tasks so that their Mistress does not have to.  Some wish to serve financially. The array of submission is vast, and the how is highly individual and unique.

In our society, money equals power.  If we approach it from that vantage point, it can shine a light on financial domination, and strip it down to it’s base root of a power exchange.  The submissive gives…sometimes painfully…to their dominant.

Just like the submissive who has been through a painful flogging, the financial domination fetishist will feel it the next day.  One may move slowly and gingerly, wincing as they move.  The other may look at their bank or credit card statement and gulp.  But they will *both* feel that they served.

They both will have submitted.

They both will have suffered.

And they both will enjoy the endorphin rush for days after the actual deed is done.

Can it be abused?  Of course it can.  So can any other type of power exchange.   But in the hands of someone that believes in ethical and responsible domination, financial domination pay piggies can explore safely, and most deliciously!  Are there some that really, really want financial ruin?  Yes, just like there are people who really, really want to be castrated or who really, really play deadly games by advertising on sites designed to hook up men up with strangers to have bareback anal sex.

The vast majority of pay piggies do not want to total ruin.  Whether it’s through tributes, wish list gifts, raise the rate games, etc, they want to enjoy their fantasy, spoil their Mistress to the best of their abilities, and not jeopardize the rest of their lives.

While some do drive-by’s, either randomly selecting financial dominatrices or rotating through his personal favorites, many money slaves form deep relationships with their Mistresses that span years.

To someone without a financial domination fetish, it can seem rather bizarre.  But I think that can be safely said of most fetishes.  So live and let live, and to those so inclined,  pamper your Mistress!


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Relinquishing Control

Are you ready to relinquish control? Dial 888-491-0752

Are you ready to relinquish control? Dial 888-491-0752

Notes: I think we’ll try something that should be fun. If you are a fan of any form of cock control, check back on Monday for a new masturbation games series.  I have also done a mini-update of my About page.

Let’s examine the word control, shall we?  The site defines it as “to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command”

Just reading that gives me a case of the pleasant shivers.  I am driven by the need to control.  One might say that it is the motive power for my sexual being.  It fuels the machine, so to speak.  Can I have experiences that are enjoyable that do not allow me to to control another?  Yes, of course.  But I find that for me…in terms of pleasure derived…they are a weak imitation.

Of course, for me to control, there needs to be someone to relinquish control.  That, pets, is where you come in.

Power Exchange

Power exchange can take on many forms.  I think that the term gets skewed and confused with TPE, or total power exchange.  While power exchange situations can certainly be of the total variety, it is not at all necessary, and 99.9% of them are not anything that resembles a total power exchange.  That could very easily lend itself to a very lengthy post about whether total power exchange really *is* total power exchange, but we’ll leave that for perhaps another time.

Types of Power Exchange

A power exchange can really be anything that the two parties involved agree that it should be.  One may simply need a respite from the demands of the day, and a 10 minute guided masturbation session is exactly what the doctor ordered.  Another may yearn to have their orgasms controlled on a long term basis.  Another may want me to dictate what types of panties they wear to work every day.  Another could want the non-erotic areas of their life controlled, and could want me to take the lead in any number of goals that they have.  The possibilities truly are endless, and each of them bring me pleasure.  Because they give me what I crave…control.

Why Give Up Control?

Obviously, the reasons for wanting to relinquish control are as varied as the individuals who wish to do it.  I do think that people who aren’t driven to one side of that coin falsely assume that the person who wants to give up control is weak in some regard.  My time with both distance domination and face-to-face has shown me that the opposite is most always true.

Generally speaking,  people who wish to cede control are people who are otherwise very much in control in one, if not many aspects of their lives.  There are the exceptions to that rule of course.  There are those who are such a jumbled mess that they need “fixing” and want me to take control of them.

However, for the most part, those of you who want to give up control…in whichever form you wish to do it…are dynamic, successful individuals that the rest of the world turns to for answers.  You seek a place where you don’t have to think, or make decisions. You seek a place that allows you the freedom to simply be…to experience…to feel…to be alive.


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