Chastity and Key Holding

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We recently discussed various aspects of chastity, and today I wanted to talk about the relationship between the chaste male, and his keyholder.  While it is certainly possible to go it alone, so to speak, as with many experiences in life it is enhanced when we share it with another.

Chastity is a Journey

I believe that chastity is very much like going on a journey.  One may have an idea of where they are going, or an exact road map.  Either way, there are many miles to cover, and the chastity journey is one best savored.  After all, if you are merely rushing through it, not paying attention to the physical, mental, and emotional sensations that it creates, why bother doing it?

Chastity is to be examined and explored.  While it truly is a journey into one’s self, to have someone to reflect on the experience with can add to it’s pleasure.  Male chastity can also be a journey into submission.  In either instance, that is where a keyholder comes in to play.

Selecting the Right Key Holder for You

To be able to figure out who will best meet your need for a key holder, you will have to do some self-examination.  Some of you are lucky, and are in face-to-face relationships with a partner who enjoys keeping your cock locked up.  While I do think that the number of couples that enjoy chastity play is on the rise, my experience as a distance dominant tells me that they are still not as prevalent as men would like.  That is unfortunate, but also reality.

If you find that you fall into the category of men without a partner, or without a willing partner, you have a few options.  If you live in a metropolitan area, you may utilize the services of a keyholder that will physically lock you up, and retain possession of the key.  I have talked to men who’ve gone that route, and the results have been somewhat mixed.  It seems to be a more gratifying method if a relationship exists between the two of them prior to the chastity agreement.  Otherwise, for some, there seems to be an emotional void that prevents them from feeling that they are sacrificing for a  dominant woman.

Another possibility is a distance dominant like myself who will not only work with you to devise the perfect chastity program for you, but I will oversee it as well.  The communication that takes place during your chastity journey will be an added element that most find to be enriching.  Chastity is such a personal experience, and it will be necessary for you to be able to verbalize your situation, your experience, your desired outcome, etc.

I Want to Explore Chastity, But I’m Married

Most times, we can’t just let our desires rule us.  There are practical considerations, and for some of you, that means marriage.  If your mate isn’t approachable on the subject of chastity, let alone on board, does that mean you are totally out of luck?

Not at all.  It just means that you may not get your ideal fantasy, but you may get something that feeds your hungers *and* keeps your daily life ticking along like you want it to.   That may mean honor system chastity, or it may mean that you wear a device part of the time.

But one thing is unequivocally true.  I will control you and your cock.

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Chastity Training – Locked and Loaded Cocks

Whether you’ve been locked up for a long time, or whether you’ve just toyed with the notion, chastity training can be incredibly powerful.  It’s actually one of my favorite types of play.  Not only because it’s such fun to have all that control, but because of the mental metamorphosis that takes place within the lockee.

Today one of my callers contacted me prior to a brief business trip.  This particular gentleman is not able to be locked up 24/7, though he does have longer periods of caged time interspersed with times when it is not feasible.  When he mailed me, he asked if he could call, and would I be interested in watching him on cam as he locked up for the trip.

The answer, of course, was a resounding YES!

I love when men go on cam for me, and I also really like the dynamic that has played out with this individual.  When we first began exchanging emails, chastity was something that he was not overly interested in.  However, as time went by, and I dangled the concept in front of him mentally, he began to warm to the idea.

Before you knew it, this chronic masturbator had purchased the CB-6000 that I had selected for  him, and we were scheduling a session to lock him up for the first time.  The flood of adrenaline that went through me when his numbered lock snapped into place made me soooooooooo incredibly wet!

He took to Submission chastity like a duck to water, and what I had initially thought might be a 2 week trial period grew to encompass the 2 month window of opportunity that we had.  I had so much fun teasing him during that time, and  seeing my cock swell and leak when it was taken out for playtime, then returned to it’s cage.

We spent part of today talking about his personal journey and how someone who had at first dismissed the idea of chastity training had come not only to embrace it, but to seek out the pockets of it that he could fit into the reality of his life.

As we explore ourselves and our kinks, we can end up in places we never would have imagined.  Which is part of what makes it such delicious fun, don’t you think?


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